Everything seems to be smooth sailing lately. I'm 13 weeks and the baby is fluttering a lot, meaning twice a day or so, reassuring let me tell you, and I am feeling much better physically. I have energy and I am taking advantage of it by cleaning and packing for Mexico.Okay I have to admit I'm not sure whether posting pregnancy photos on a ttc blog is appropriate. In fact I question whether or not it's even appropriate to talk about pregnancy on such a blog or complain about morning sickness, tiredness and the like. Even though it's probably 90 percent friends and family reading this blog, the other 10 percent seems to be the anonymous stranger (some who have left kind comments in the past) and some who may have hurt feelings (I know...I've been there, clicking off many an annoying pregnancy blog faster than lightning to protect myself)
This blog was started simply as an outlet for me until I could get pregnant (which I was sure would happen fast). I honestly thought it would rapidly turn in to a real pregnancy blog, complete with nursery photos and belly shots *groan* and one of those "how many days left tickers, " ...the works. But as fate would have it I didn't get pregnant very fast at all and fell in to some pits, putting me right back where I was when I was in my early 30's before Little S came along. I went through a lot of pain and anger and dredged my way through nearly two years of added ttc, added to the six years I already had under my belt. This wasn't destined to be a pregnancy blog very fast at all. I realized after a year of setbacks I was in it for the long haul, again.
So maybe it's not appropriate to keep a blog such as this and turn it in to a blatant pregnancy blog. Maybe it's better to let this blog die as is.
Or maybe it's absolutely appropriate that it should turn in to one of those annoying pregnancy blogs, ticker, belly shots and all just like I originally planned. Maybe it puts a cap and seal on all the pain left behind in posts like this and this and this. Maybe that's me sticking my tounge out and blowing rasberries at the ttc gods, The Splotch Lady and her clipboard, and Ernestine and the Hope Villain and all those moments where I felt like THIS.
Maybe...
Does anyone have any thoughts before I decide whether to pull the plug? Comments?
9 comments:
I think you should keep on going. If anything, maybe it will give hope to other women out there going through the same thing. They might find hope in seeing what you went through and where you're at now.
i hope you will keep going..i feel like i have followed along during your ups and downs, praying for you to have a change of circumstances, cried even when i found out you were pregnant...i would love for you to continue..i'd love to read more of your happy pregancy...everyone loves a happy ending, afterall..please don't stop just yet
Chris - Please don't stop! I love reading about your pregnancy. You deserve this part - posting all the good stuff! You've earned it. Don't feel like you have to shield people from your happiness! If someone doesn't want to read it, they don't have to! But I DO want to read it so please continue! :O)
Your friend,
Arwen
Hiya, it's one of those anonymous lurkers de-lurking. I read this because it's good, touching and interesting. Please go on - it's life isn't it, it's not like you should have to feel guilty about having been succesful!
kirsti
It's the logical progression, so I don't see a reason to stop. So many of the people who have been reading and cheering you on are thrilled to see you finally pregnant, and to know that everything is going well.
What I've done is to flag the links from my blog so that visitors know to expect pregnancy talk if they click out to one of those places.
A regular reader will already know of your pregnancy and if sensitive to it, won't be back for a while. Someone stumbling into your blog who may be hurt by the fact that you're pregnant, will probably click away very quickly, doing effectively the same as if you stopped blogging about your pregnancy here.
Keep blogging, Chris. The story doesn't stop with a positive pregnancy test.
I wasn't going to stop blogging (as if...) I was just going to talk about all this on my other blog. The problem is that this blog has become such a personal blog and I guess I like that. I feel like I can be more open here. It's like my little side street.
I just don't want to be insensitive. A blog is a public forum unless password protected. (Blogger doesn't let you password protect your blog). So as long as it's public I think in that there's a teeny bit of responsibility to think of the audience and their feelings, happy ending stories aside.
I hope you continue on with both blogs, but I do think if you decided to combine them together that would be okay as well (and probably a lot easier on you as well). As far as your question, I think most people who read infertility blogs know that there is A chance that it will result into a pregnancy blog and should be able to handle it. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
Monnie
It's six of one half a dozen of the other isn't it? Some people will really benefit from the happy ending, from the light at the end of the tunnel. Others will feel some pain or sadness or jealousy.
Maybe put any photos at the all bottom of the post and start the post with a little "warning: pregnancy photos in this post"?
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