dieu: So how's the little tyke these days?Fuck. I've just been dumped by my RE. All because I got pregnant and lost a baby after over six months of trying. If I could have imagined a worse case scenario it would not have even been this awful.
me: Fine doctor, doing very well thanks... just get on with it will you...
dieu: ::cheerily:: So you had a spontaneous pregnancy?
me: Yes, that ended in a miscarriage.
dieu: ...but a spontaneous pregnancy just the same
yes: umm yes ...where is this leading?
dieu: So this is some good news then! why the fuck is this good news please tell me? Here's what we're going to do, we're going to try a few inuterine inseminations first and see how that goes. Your local OB can handle them. All very straightforward. Simple stuff.
me: not sure if I heard that correctly Do you mean IUI's?
dieu: Yep, IUI's.
me: Yes but doctor I did five IUI's and it never worked. It took over two years of my life. It was very frustrating. I really think...
dieu: ...oh it works more often than you think. Maybe you were just on the wrong side of the odds. We'll try it again and see.
me: But it's really more of a time issue these days. I'll be 38 years old in March and I think that I need to ...
dieu: Honestly, I can't recommend you for an IVF until you do at least four rounds of IUI.
me: FOUR rounds!?
dieu: It will go quickly and if it doesn't work we'll go straight to the IVF.
me: :speechless:
dieu: We have patient's who are still trying to get their first baby Madame. With your spontaneous pregnancy I can't say I can recommend you for IVF. It will go quickly, don't worry you'll be holding that baby before you know it.
* I just called the secretary of my ob who says that my ob will not be seeing any patients until after January first. When I tried to explain to her that I was not a newly pregnant patient, but that I was preparing for (an utterly useless) fertility treatment (that should be happening SOON damnitt to hell), she said "I'm sorry madame there are NO exceptions!"
I think the universe has just turned wrong side out and upside down. Can someone please tell me what the fuck is going on?
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No fucking way. Is he joking? What the hell is wrong with him? I am so sorry, Chris. That is wrong, wrong, wrong. Come cycle in Vegas with me. I'm not one for gambling (unless it is fertility roulette), but hey, we can visit Siri and see the Grand Canyon.
So is the moral of this to lie to REs? I can't believe this. You are being punished for a m/c? Are there other REs you can see? I am so pissed on your behalf.
Thanks for being pissed on my behalf Em. That helps cushion things somewhat. I was just so shocked to hear it. Shock will slowly turning to acceptance, right. It always does in one way or another because it has to.
I'd love to cycle in Vegas. And hey, I've never seen the Grand Canyon before. Seeing my ttc possee would be worth the trip alone! But I think I'm going to have to stick with my unsympathetic and poorly managed (but free) healthcare system here in France. We'll just have to learn to lie better like you said.
Nothing ,really cushions the blow, does it?
Are you charting this month? I don't see your update on FF.You must be close to mid-cycle. How is your plan working out?
Thinking of you.
My sidebar seems screwed up here on Blogger. If you scroll WAYYYYY down the page my FF link is there.
Yep I'm mid cycle.
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